Card of the Week June 27th: The Slide

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Back in the 1970s, seemingly before child safety was invented, kids could partake in all kinds of crazy activities (riding in the back of flat-bed trucks, not wearing seat-belts, roaming around empty fields for hours at a time with no-one knowing where we were, dangling from playground equipment you could base jump from)  swimming pools still had HIGH DIVE boards and 3 meter boards alongside the little belly-flopper board they have now.

When I was little, we went to a vacation spot that had a board that was at least 12 stories tall and swayed in the breeze (to my overactive, child -imagination at least) … there was no way I was going to jump off THAT thing.   No way!   Luckily for me, there was a lower diving board.  And since I had just learned to dive from the edge of the pool into the icy, chlorinated waters of the municipal pool at swim-class, I figured I was good to go. A dive is a dive. Right?  My grandmother was a world-class diver and swimmer.  (The family story was that she was about to be in the cancelled 1940 summer Olympics).  I can do this!! I’ve got diving in my blood!

I climbed up the tall ladder with dozens of other kids queuing up behind me and suddenly the “low” board felt 1000 feet high.  I slowly walked to the end, which I was almost 100% positive was exactly like walking the plank of a Pirate ship, and …. stopped.   The wind was blowing gooseflesh across my legs,  and when I looked down, things went from bad to worse.  This wasn’t my little swim-class pool – this was an enormous pool with the deepest deep end I’d ever seen. Cavernously deep.  Wait, was that the shadow of the board on the water? Nope… I’m pretty sure that’s a hammerhead shark. A man-eating hammerhead shark.

I turned around and saw the crowd of irate kids behind me, dripping pool water mixed with Coppertone, glaring at me like they wanted to throw me into the drink face first.    I felt scared to jump and horrible for holding up the line. I could smell the fear, pool water, coconut sunscreen  and impatience.

BE PATIENT

This adorable card from “The Answer is Simple Oracle” by Sonia Choquette  (a gift from a friend) reminds me of this very day.   A child is poised at the top of the slide but is scared to go down and the kids on the ladder are saying, “hurry up before we strangle you!” – the slide is small and not-scary, but to the little guy at the top, it sure doesn’t feel that way.

Right now, you might be feeling like the kid on the slide who is scared to go down and thinking about climbing right back down the ladder and running home as fast as possible.    Or you might even feel like one of the kids in the line … frustrated at the hold up and annoyed that someone else isn’t getting with the program and is holding the entire works up!   Either way, you must have patience. Patience with yourself if you’re dragging your feet or suddenly encountering a case of the heebie-jeebies,  and patience with others you feel are standing in your way at the top of the slide.     Anger, impatience, frustration and annoyance  might not make them (or yourself)  take on a new challenge faster and might even slow things down. Patience with yourself can instill confidence and bravery when the imaginary sharks are swimming beneath your feet.    Oh how I wish one of those onlookers would have just said, “it’s ok, it’s fun, you can do it!”  but they didn’t.

In those days where patience and encouragement is not forthcoming, be patient with YOURSELF.  Guilt, anguish and feeling bad about yourself will not whip you into shape and can, instead, be a distraction mechanism your ego can use to avoid getting things done.   (“I can’t dive in… I’m too busy feeling bad about myself for not taking the leap.”)       And if you’re waiting on someone to make a daring move, remember that you too have faltered or been unsure. Remember how it felt and how you wanted others to treat you during that time. Did you want them to have confidence in you, or harsh criticism? Did you want them to have patience or did you want them to be impatient and frustrated with you? Would encouragement help?

It doesn’t matter how “wrong” or stupid the other person is being in your eyes or how obvious the solution is, and it doesn’t matter if you’re angry with yourself for being scared or silly…. frustration cannot accomplish anything. Ultimately you can’t be responsible for anyone else’s job to do. You can’t make them slide when you’re waiting…. and you can’t make them encourage you when you’re on the other side.   They will slide down the slide eventually and so will you.  Things will get moving again, but this interim will go better if you’re patient.   Don’t let snags in the queue or hold-ups seem like impossible stopping points (especially as we start a Mercury retrograde between now and Jul.20 … or Aug 3rd)

What happened to me that day ? I’m not sure how, but  I DO know that I did eventually make it off that diving board….. the water was deep and I could not touch the bottom. It was a shock.  But I survived.   I got back up on the ladder and went a few dozen more times with the rest of the kids.  Coming up from that cavernous depth,  swimming to the edge… going back to the board dripping and cold, over and over and having a blast!

 

*about the deck:   Sonia Choquette’s  “THE ANSWER IS SIMPLE ORACLE” cards (illustrated by ??? unknown) published by Hay House 62 cards.  Very “cute” cards and messages, but some of the illustrations are clever.

Weekly Card June 21st 2013: Pigs n’ Fish

One of my favourite decks for purely intuitive responses (and just because it’s funny) is the previously out-of-print “Morgan’s Tarot”  (more about it in the “About” section at the end of this post)   which is not a tarot deck at all, but a bizarre picture/word deck with dopey, cryptic, loopy messages  drawn in a graphic style that brings me back to my childhood in the ‘70s.   Its lighthearted, but serious insight are perfect for the energy we have at present.

BONUS:   Today we had a “jumper” which means in selecting the card, another one jumps out – so there is actually a bonus image for our leap into the Solstice and Summer (for those of us in the Northern hemisphere)… in fact right as I type this it is EXACTLY the Summer Solstice…

PIGS AND FISHES

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Note:   * As always, before you read about my interpretation for the card – take a moment to look at this picture and see if you have your OWN message or response popping out at you.

I love this card. My first response is , “What the hell?”   — Pigs and fishes?  What does that even mean?  And that’s precisely what this card is conveying to me.  Sometimes in life we just don’t know what the hell is going on!    We’re surrounded by pigs and fishes and we don’t know what, if anything, it all means.   Are the pigs piggy and selfish or are they Wilbur-esque and kind?  Are the fishes walking on land or are we under-water?    The ultimate meaning or importance of what is happening right now is just out of view and no matter how much we try to make sense of it all… we just simply can’t.  It feels like you’re going around a blind, curve.    Even if you have the ESP skills of Kreskin  and  you’re intelligently attuned to the flow of life with an abundance of smart,  logical thinking on your side, there are going to be events and times that are beyond your grasp  and which throw you for a loop.

Sometimes this feeling is the strongest when there’s just something we can’t CONTROL happening in our lives.  Maybe it’s a relationship with a loved one that we’re trying to improve, a new project we’ve been handed, trying to get accepted by that perfect job or school, or helping a loved one with a crisis… there is literally only so much we can physically do and even less that we can ultimately control.  The fact that we can’t always “make” things happen be can be pretty painful for the part of us that wants to control  the bejeezus out of everything and make sure that we have the best outcome and result.     In those times where we’re in foreign territory and the pigs and fish are swirling at our ankles, it’s important to accept  what we can not understand or influence and let things unfold instead of  fight to stay on top.    In time we’ll understand  the big picture and we’ll regain familiar footing and strength.  In the meantime we have to stay open and do our best to stay loving to ourselves and other people even if we feel like a stranger in a strange land.   Be open to making friends with some of these pigs and some of these fish… they may ultimately be new helpers later on.     They might put you on the trail of the best truffles or biggest pearl bearing oysters, after all!

Bonus jumper card :

YOU CAN DO NO WRONG

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WOW – really?  That’s fabulous news! I’ve always wanted to hear these words.  Now… just one look at the picture shows us that we can, indeed, do a little wrong.   I did see a hipster street musician sporting a similar half-shaved ‘do… but most of us probably can’t get away with it.  And that bird flying upside down? That’s just wrong!     Or is it?     ..    this card is asking us to take a new approach, to do something askew or to go ahead and keep trying even if things are a little funky right now.  Don’t take things TOO seriously, when all is said and done – you can right yourself and things might turn out better than you think.     You might gain new perspectives by flying upside down or by curling those handlebars with mustache wax and hacking off half your golden locks with your eyes closed.     (Metaphorically speaking of course… mustache wax is nothing to play around with!)  This is not your carte blanche to drunk dial an ex or quit your job without a plan…  but instead is a reminder that you can take a few risks and try some new perspectives on for size.     Just don’t run with the scissors.

**About the deck:  This is the “MORGAN TAROT” by Morgan Robbins and illustrated by Darshan Chorpash and published by US GAMES (first in 1970)  – it’s not a tarot deck – but an 88 card deck of modern images and endearing (but very thought-provoking) concepts.    The artwork in this deck is priceless and 60s influenced and generally non-scary.  Some of the cards, like “Du Whacky Du” are downright hilarious, but there are serious and timely messages in the pack as well.  I no longer own the LWB that comes with this deck, but it’s reportedly quite trippily insightful.  Kind of like a car ride through Nevada with Hunter S. Thompson.

 

Honouring our Fathers

 

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As we set about to take dad out to eat, or buy his umpteenth wacky neck-tie for Father’s Day, let’s think about the archetype of “Father” both within those who fulfill a fatherly role,  but also within ourselves.

As with the “mother” archetype, the symbolism of fatherhood appears in many spiritual traditions and in the tarot.  In the tarot, The Emperor card represents the father archetype; sitting regally in his marble throne, beard flowing with wisdom and age, his stern  visage showing discipline and direction.

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Where mother energy is free-flowing, emotional, creative and powerful energy, the father archetype is grounded in action and manifestation. Masculine “father” takes the creative life force from the feminine and translates this force through organization, disciplined concrete steps, actions and follow through that gets things done and makes things happen.  On the tarot card ‘The Emperor’  we see red robes and burnished hues of fire in the sky and background, a throne covered with carved rams heads which represent “Aries” the ruler of the Emperor and these represent activation, action, leadership and movement.  A dynamic harnessing of the power of life.  In his right hand he holds and Egyptian “Ankh” which represents the force of life and in his  left hand, the world – which represents his dominion and power over this force in the world.
Father energy in the positive aspect is typifies the masculine:  direction of powerful life force, protection, safety, mentoring, authority and leadership.   (and in the negative aspect it can overbearing control, offensiveness, rigidity and inflexibility).

Remember, every person (and every mother and father) has both the energy of masculine and feminine and  Mother archetype and Father archetype.  My father never laid down an iron fist and he is a really gentle guy who is soft spoken, kind, creative and likes people to find their own path.   He recently teased that he’s my “life-coach”  and isn’t that at least a little true of our dads? 😉     They may be like Calvin’s dad in the comic strip Calvin and Hobbes every now and then and not have all the answers (“The sun sets because it gets cold and night and sinks”)  but they try to provide direction, safety and instruction from the little issues (how to change a tire) to the big (how to get along with other people).    Father represents calling in the troops and getting things organized.   My dad would do a bird call (black-capped chickadee) whenever the family needed to  catch back up together and still to this day if he makes that call (or if I hear the real bird) I snap to attention!

Our relationship to our fathers, father-figures and the part of ourselves that matches this masculine/Father archetype is as key a force to integrate as the feminine and nurturing.   This masculine energy allows us to get our ducks in a row and put our intuitive creative ideas to practical use, it helps keep us productive, grounded and safe.

An intuitive can help you clarify what you need to heal in relationship to the “Father” energy in your life so that you and your relationships can be more successful.  Is there a way you need to balance your relationship to your birth father or father-figure who took care of you?  Is there a way in which you can heal and balance that part of YOU which  is the leader, action-taker, and decision maker?   What about your relationship to your Spiritual “Father” in your faith?    Book a short session now for $35 dollars to look into a path for connection to your “father” energy!
As for our dads (anything can be a “father” but it takes a special person to be a daddy) – even though Father’s Day doesn’t get as much commercial play as Mother’s day – treat a dad in your life to something great and give him love! After all, just like money, those funny homilies they come up with and stories they tell don’t just grow on trees!