This week’s message is a day later than normal … but right on time (I was away for the Memorial Day holiday where we were out of town and spending time with family members visiting different cemeteries) … since everything happens at just the right moment. The last in the not-often-used-decks theme for May, this is a Doreen Virtue “Healing with The Fairies Oracle Deck” I was given for review. There must be actual fairies in this deck because this one LEAPT out of the deck, so the message this week is an important one!
This week, it’s important to open up your heart and mind to the prospect of making new friends. The time has come for new people and new experiences to enter your life. In fact, you might have noticed this theme lately with friends who are moving away, or perhaps friends who you just don’t feel like you “fit” with the same way, or for some other reason don’t seem to be lining up with you the way they once did. That doesn’t mean that the old friends need to be tossed out for trash day, it doesn’t even mean that your old friends are permanently disappearing from your life, it simply means that your friendship tree is growing new branches and new roots to sustain you and give you life.
If you’re dating or looking for romance, this card also speaks to the prospect of letting new people IN and getting to know them. Maybe even thinking of them as friends instead of people to keep at the pointy end of a sharpened spear. Seeing potential friends and allies is a lot less pressure for your mind than seeing everyone as Miss Right, or Mr. Future Husband. Let’s face it: meeting other people is pretty scary to the part of us that doesn’t want to get hurt, doesn’t want to be rejected. We’d much rather cry in our milk about how nobody is coming around, but in reality we’re often afraid of the very thing we say we want so much because it means change and opening up.
It doesn’t matter if the friend in this week’s guidance is a true blue friend, a supporter, a peer group, a date, a business partner, or something else… the message is about simply dropping the drawbridge over that moat that surrounds your heart and letting yourself get to know new people and grow some of those new foundations that will be so awesome for you! You owe it to yourself to see what wonderful fruit and benefits come with those new branches by simply being open to new experiences and friends. After all, hasn’t the OLD way been a little lonely? Letting in friends often has a domino effect on your personal, business and romantic relationships… improving ALL of them.
One of the biggest reasons we don’t want to meet new friends or open up to other people is because somewhere down the line someone hurt us in the past. And because we’ve been hurt, we haven’t found confidence in the future or that things can be different.
But you know what? Those strange people are just like you and they want company and support too… do they really deserve all that junk from what someone ELSE did? No! And what’s more… you’re a lot more amazing than you give yourself credit for. Whatever you feel you can’t handle is actually something you can! It’s time to let people see (and appreciate) how great you are, and conversely for you to see the good in other people. And that illusion that friends are hard to find? They’re NOT! Within a stones throw, there are nice people willing to help you with your day and even a few who share values, interests and hobbies.
The old motto of “half-heartedly connect to other people/must protect myself” can be traded in for, “I’m going to dive right in and see people as the friends they are!” Why are you scared? Maybe because you think you can control others or must protect yourself from all risk. That’s not how it works, though. Some people will not play well with who you are. That’s a fact of life, but if you keep EVERYONE out, you’ll miss the ones who could connect with you on a deeper level. If you open up and believe in your strength and spirit to allow other people to be who they are, then you’ll be able to be who you really are and can have a LOT of fun and marvelous connections. If someone doesn’t mesh and blend with you, why is that a big deal? So what? Simply focus back on those who DO and let resentments go.
An additional meaning of this card is “new friends” in the people that you know already. Is there some way that your current friendships and relationships could have new experiences, attitudes and outlooks? Don’t half arse your friends this week. “I’m going to dive right in!” is your motto!
PS. Don’t forget your FURRY friends this week.
About this deck: Healing With The Fairies Oracle Cards — by Doreen Virtue (illustrated by various) is published by Hay House.