Look at the happy picture. The moving water and waves (symbolising emotions) glimmering in the sun. Indeed, this is a month where our emotional lives are lighting up in new and unexpected ways. Even our collective unconscious is strummed towards feelings lately (one only had to tune in to the Super Bowl commercials last night, typically a bastion of beer and babes, to see emotional commercials about aging parents, and heart-tugging adverts about puppies and children. (Did I just see a campaign by McDonald’s to “pay with love?”) What should we do with all these feelings running rampant? Something good I hope! This week’s cards (there was a jumper) hint towards romance.
Some of you will be overjoyed to see this picture. Some of you might get nervous, but before you look at this picture, see the couple, groan and think, “oh no!” Read on! – This could be a week of a lot of romantic awakenings and emotional awakenings. Romance, in this case, is anything that makes your emotions come alive, dance and take notice of the world around you. Romance could be a connection to a partner, but it can also represent the romance with romantic feelings and excitement, a romance with your own heart, or a romance with whatever you’re truly passionate about.
Romance is about the alive heart, beating with possibilities, excitement and wonder. This is the heart that gets invested in things, which fears neither defeat nor isolation. This is the lion heart of love and passion. If you’re in a relationship, this is an amazing week to explore the terrain of your romantic heart. Whether or not these are the days of wine and roses, let your heart be tickled by emotions and fondness. Your partner might be sending shivers up your spine, or you may be affirming to them, “YES! This is awesome! I care about you and I want to continue this adventure!” If you’re single or dating, this is simply about waking your heart back up and feeling more foot-loose. Feeling the surge of “yes!! this is possible!” again.
In terms of work, projects and practical things, romance flashes here too! This is a week to let your feelings come alive again, to feel the full rainbow of emotions, and to feel passionate about your life. No partner brings this to you, after all. And to have romance on the OUTSIDE you must have romance on the inside too! For many, this is going to be passion for our purpose. Being “in love” with work again, feeling special about things that make our heart sing. (this is great for those who have felt a little “lost” in terms of greater purpose lately). You may find yourself falling in love with what you’re meant to do to a greater degree or you might discover something in your hobby or artistic passion (OH MY GOSH THAT’s the GREATEST GUITAR PICK EVER!) that really tickles your fancy. There’s a lucky answer to a problem…
The second, “popper” card (Holding On) is a great companion to Romance. Wherever we find romance and passion blooming, whether that’s within our selves, for another person, for our job, for life…. we can bet that “holding on” can squash those feelings of excitement and peace. Here’s the thing, though – holding-on isn’t unusual. If you think about it, it’s only an expression of that fear we all have about the unknowns of the future, or where life might guide us outside our expectations. Holding on is just that feeling of “No, I’m scared. I don’t know what the future might bring, I don’t want to change!” This card is a gentle reminder to us to examine if there’s someone (or something) we’re hanging on to so much that passionate and romance cannot bloom in new places. The figure in the pictures has already packed their bags and wants to roll down the road, while another hangs on to their trouser-cuff for dear life. This card cautions us that no matter how much we might want to hold on to a situation we would like to change, letting go is our only chance to transcend that pattern and keep from being abandoned victims. Think Bill Murray in the movie Groundhog Day (one of my absolute favourite movies ever, consider this your homework if you’ve never seen it!)
Letting go of whatever we’re desperately clinging on to (good or bad, whether it’s a PERSON, THOUGHT HABIT, or THING) is an immediate way to point our emotional selves towards more romance, more passion, more fiery, “YES!” vibes whether towards a new person, dating, enjoying life, feeling EMOTIONS again, or just liking work and projects a little more. We can explore a new sunny day, instead of the same winter-scape over and over.
We’re not going to be desperate or humiliated this week. Nope! This week it will be just a little easier to let go of that metaphorical trouser leg. Stand up, brush ourselves off, see new possibilities. Feel the tingly surge of new emotional tides. Walk along the sand with someone special. Think about all the wonderful gifts of emotion, passion and care that you have to give to others around you. Let them flow and flow.. just like the ocean in the picture.
Have a romantic and fun week, everybody and happy Groundhog Day!
About this deck: The Love Pack, by psychologist Chuck Spezzano is an 84 card deck and book set published by C&B. Cute, modern illustrations, outline simple but powerful concepts of relating.