Magical Twilight; card of the week 19th January 2016

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This i-Ching hexagram #36  sometimes called “twilight” or  “darkening of the light” relates to a similar theme we saw last week (don’t rush into motion, there might not be anything you can DO) and the re-view, re-negotiate, and be thoughtful themes of this month’s  mercury retrograde.   “Twilight” speaks of an especially fortunate time for  continuing to guard steady, amazing progress by sticking to our personal integrity and letting go instead of leaping into fevered motion.

When the twilight comes it’s a magical time of evening with fireflies glowing and stars beginning to shine.   But it’s also a time between rest and motion when visibility is low and when  not all the little day-creatures have found their safe nests.   Bound by day and night, the land between these two worlds creates the need for caution and consideration.     After all, you don’t want to be the day-mouse darting around haphazardly  under the watchful eyes of a night owl.

(this picture painted on a tiny wooden disc makes it hard to see – but there’s a little mouse peeking out of a hole)

This week, appreciate the beauty of the transitional energy underway.  Count the fireflies and stars, but be mindful about what you’re doing. Don’t get lured out of your nest before the time is right and don’t scurry without direction or a flashlight.  Even if you find yourself going to lots of social engagements, you’ll do best if you keep yourself grounded in your own immovable core as you have a good time or as you bring your wisdom and friendship to those who are having a tough go.

This week is not about dimming your PERSONAL light or living in the dark!   In fact,  this is a great week to think about ways in which you can stay true to yourself  without getting all caught up in what’s going on.  If you’re true to yourself  then your light can really shine the way it’s meant to and you’ll have way more fun that way.

Twilight hexagram is also about not always going along with what’s popular.     Conventional thinking  could lead you down a road that is just not YOU. The masses can be right about a lot of things but there’s also time when the conventional wisdom around you might suggest the most basic “little me” ego way to see the world – for example:    —   don’t try to understand another person’s pain or experience – ditch ‘em!  — don’t think about what role you played in things, blame someone else!  You shouldn’t have to be kind or loving, the person in the wrong should do it!

Think twice before you let what’s popular or common  define your direction.    You might even  find yourself swimming against the Zeitgeist this week.   Think about all those scientists who were laughed at; of Copernicus who had the crazy notion that the Earth revolves around the sun, and how very much AGAINST the grain of popular thinking that once was.

Yes, the  twilight brings dimmer light and with it, it’s harder to see far ahead and harder to connect the dots and see how everything fits together but sometimes it’s not important to see how it all fits and to trust the Heavens in their sparkling, infinite array of stars and potential ahead.   You’re safe, you’re you and you have an important light to bring to the world!


Have a great week!

About this deck: I made this oracle many years ago using wooden discs painted with wood pencils, varnish, and wood enamels.       It is inspired by the  I-CHING  or “Book of Changes” dating back to end of the second millennium BCE, it’s also one of the oldest books in recorded history.     The I-Ching comprises a set of 64 hexagrams (6 lines each)  which  represent all the possible six-line combinations  of yin/yang energy.   Yin and Yang energy are the dualistic building blocks of the universe;  feminine/masculine, active/passive, light/dark, etc.     Each hexagram is made up of two of the 8 “Hua” Trigrams that represent the classical  fundamental elements and which were said, in legend, to have been inspired when the first  Emperor of China Fu Hsi had visions related to the lines and dashes on a turtle’s back.   Because of some of the legends surrounding it, scholars believe some of the “I-Ching” material pre dates recorded history in Ancient China.


Love is Perfect, Card of the Week 30th September, 2013

My grandmother had hundreds of salt and pepper shakers; hippos, chickens, dutch-girls and boys, cows, windmills.   I once asked her, “why do you love these?”  and she said, “People just kept giving them to me!”

The same thing  is true of my card collection. What started with art cards/ and airline playing card decks, has now mushroomed with the gifts and tokens of friends, students, clients.   Often I get a deck that I wouldn’t get for myself or wouldn’t pick on my own – over the next few weeks we’ll look at some of those!

Such is the deck gently illustrated by Sulamith Wulfing   for this week’s card – evoking Gustav Klimt, the painting features a couple in an embrace:

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on the reverse it says:

Love is perfect, even when you are not

What seems to be a cornball sentiment about the perfection of love on the surface, might just be too good a bit of advice to ignore this week!     I constantly see evidence that we’re just about constantly trying to “perfect” ourselves for love, operating under some delusion that if we were just handsomer, thinner, smarter, cooler, more dynamic or had a better stock portfolio, that more “love” would be on the way.  This feeling is not just for the naïve either.    In one week I witnessed two successful, smart, professional women turn back the hands of time to their insecure teenager years as they sprouted anxiety wings in an effort to run all over town finding the right costume for a party or some way to be more impressive to the object of their affection. I know men who waffle on progressing their interpersonal relationships because they just haven’t slain enough dragons or built enough empires yet and feel worthless.

Those neurotic manifestations  of the false belief about being “perfect” for love involving shoes or nose jobs  are the easy ones to spot.    Harder to see within, are all those times we decide that we’re too clingy, too upset, to fearful or too “Broken” to join the relationship we’re in (or could have).

How many times have you pulled away from relationship because you were on a mission to “fix” something about yourself?  I need to read more self-help books, I need to take a seminar. I need to heal all these deep-seated intrinsic issues I have about trust and intimacy… THEN,  and only then, when I somehow unlock that magical secret to solve my issues, love will walk into my life bearing a freshly baked cherry pie.

Perhaps you’re knee deep in a relationship conflict with someone and you feel that if only things were “perfect” in some way (if we had more conversations, if we could get over our issues, if we could commit to each other, if we could spend more time walking the dog)  that love would find its way back in.

The trouble is, relationships are not meant to be approached only from a state of zen-like purity and spiritual equipoise.   You are not perfect!!  You never will be perfect.  That is a fact.  Likewise, your partner will never be perfect…. (and on certain Saturday afternoons, jumping up on and down on your last nerve, they won’t even come close).       That means that relationships and the perfect love that is found within and from opening your heart to understand, love and embrace other human beings,  are NOT the province of “PERFECT” but of flawed human-beings.

The entire adventure of  life and purpose of JOINING others is to make a fabulous stew of all the flaws and issues that you have and learn to communicate with your partners to understand yourselves and to grow, change, learn and create new patterns.  If everyone waited until they were “perfect”  to join,  the planet would shrink and die due to population collapse …. because if we take an honest account of our emotional warts; we all have ‘em!

Have you heard this one?  “My life is complicated and my family is a mess… I feel guilty for bringing someone into that.”   or how about,  “I just don’t feel good enough about MYSELF yet.”  — I could go on and on, writing this post for days.   In short?  Knock it off.     Be IMPERFECT this week.  Realise that you don’t have to be WITHOUT FEAR to join a relationship or be open to love. Your socks don’t have to match, your nose doesn’t have to turn up at the end, your outfit doesn’t have to be “cool” …. none of that matters.  Without your open heart, without connecting to yourself (or others) none of the cool so-called “perfect” stuff even matters!   If you wait until your relationship is “perfect” to commit to your partner, you may sadly find yourself at the end of some road looking back, wishing you had one more night of snoring from your hubby, or just one more day of hearing your mom quibble about food.   Life is short.  We don’t have time for this nonsense.

Love itself is perfect and you, because you contain love, are too (even with your many flaws).  LOVE ITSELF asks nothing, forgives everything, understands it all, and thinks that everything is perfectly as it should be.

Remember this quote by John Wayne:

Courage is being scared to death… and saddling up anyway.

About this deck:    This week’s card is from the LOVER’S ORACLE, published by Bluestar Communications.    Artist  SULAMITH WULFING, as student of Jiddu Krishnamurti, had an intense and semi-tragic life.  She fled with her family from the Nazis in WWII, and went on to become an influential artist painting gentle, luminous paintings that are featured in this small deck of 40 cards.   The backs have old chestnuts of wisdom on them, while corny, nevertheless are often true.    They are like little tiny hallmark “inspirational” cards.      It’s not my usual cup of tea, but it’s a very sweet deck – something grandma might have had on her table to look at and admire alongside her salt and pepper collection.