Easy Goes it; Card of the Week, 14th December 2015

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Two cards this week  (including  one “jumper”)   and they go so perfectly together and are great clues about how to be our most giving and receptive selves.

Being easy going is something the adult, productive, disciplined get-things-done side of ourselves doesn’t usually embrace, but that skill is  plays a huge role in  things coming to us easily!  You can get more done, see more opportunities, and be more receptive if you let go a little bit.

This week being flexible might be a necessity.  December is an intense energy month and an intense time when a lot of people celebrate holidays and there’s more “hubbub” happening than normal. There are parties to go to, food to make, presents to wrap, family to deal with… and even if you don’t do any of those things, you have to deal with the people who do.    Things might not go the way you originally think or hope that they will.   Being flexible will let you roll with what’s going on and get things done anyway.

No matter what the situation, not expecting things to be a certain way can help you embrace things as they are and that can help you enjoy yourself a lot more.  For example, we don’t always get the wonderful family and friends of TV sit-coms, we get the human, flawed ones we’ve got.   Not every gift or meal can be Martha Stewart-esque and not every get together is going to be like a Hallmark movie where everyone hugs and sings at the end.   But, some of the very  best things come out of imperfection.

Playfulness sees innocence where our reasoning minds are hardened and practical.  Playfulness is not only about having fun but also in seeing the humour in every day things.  One of my favourite winter/holiday memories is of a terrible blizzard that hit one year as we planned to visit an out of state aunt.   What began as a huge disappointment ended up being a snow-fort building, hot-chocolate making, casserole building great time.

The best way to RECEIVE (and give) is to not have a rigid and inflexible idea about how things should be. This week, budge and give a little bit. Be playful, let life surprise you, make messy but delicious cookies and do something unexpected.    Or maybe you can shake things up and introduce a little bit of flexibility and fun to your family and friends.

Have a great week!

About this deck: The Original Angel Cards: Inspirational Messages and Meditations by Kathy Tyler and Joy Drake is a set of 72 playfully illustrated, tiny cards for inspiration, creativity, meditation and more.  It is published by Allegro Corporation.

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Legacy of Kindness; Card of the Week 15th December 2014

 

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I don’t often post about personal happenings in this spot, but this week’s card (in our month-long “Colourful decks” theme) came through the perfect synchronicity of pulling cards, and it ties into something that I have been feeling today, when sad news hit and thinking about through the month.   For some, December is a time of riding high in the saddle, a bounty of progress and making inroads and positive changes – and for some it represents some heart challenges on a deep level and I’m in the latter category.   In a short period of time, two dear friends have passed away seemingly far too soon  and it’s  made me think a lot about life and the legacy that we give to others in our relatively short time on Earth.

No, this post is not supposed to be a bummer that will make you grasp for the egg nog a little early,  it’s something important!  Throughout these untimely losses, I’ve missed my friends (because even though the spirit and experience of someone lives on longer than physical life, the ability to ring them on the phone, or see them again in person… leaves and indelible etching in the heart) but  I’ve also been thinking a lot about what we leave behind when we’re no longer in the physical world.    I used to wonder “What makes us worthy? What makes us succeed in life?  What’s it all about?”    There were times in my life where I’ve tried to figure it out, and to apply some magic formula.  Ultimately, I have decided that the real formula is so much simpler than I ever thought.

Out value of ourselves changes constantly; … from whether we have the sharpest crayons, to whether we are liked in the 2nd grade, to if we have the right clothes, to if we get in the best schools, to if we have enough money, to if we raise our children to be productive and loving members of society, to if so and so likes us….  the list goes on and on.    But, throughout those changes in  how we identify ourselves as successful (or failing miserably) it seems as though others have a view of us that is entirely outside what we think of ourselves and the yard-stick we measure our lives by.   In spite of our efforts, they come to their experience of us in their own way and in their own time.

I think of Robin Williams again, another person who has succumbed to depression and illness in this year — how he must have sometimes felt failed by life, or that he himself failed – and yet in the days and months after his passing people remember and endless list of memories of his generosity and powerful positive  impact on their lives.  Both of my friends now gone similarly have a wave of brothers, daughters, friends, parents and loved ones streaming forward with the memories of a legacy of kindness, talent and loyalty.   During the adventure and excitement of life, it’s a shame that we often don’t get to see the impact we’re making as we play out the game.

See that gentle, floating, apricot coloured feather? Like George Bailey in the movie “It’s a Wonderful Life”  – you’re seeing how important you are, not by Clarence the guardian angel or being on the brink, but in seeing the important impact you make on others.  This week, no matter how you’re measuring yourself – whether you’re seeing how much money you have to spend on Christmas presents, or whether you’re considering your contributions to humanity, or whether you’re weighing out your value in some other ego way remember:  the impact you have that MATTERS  is through your kindness, your thoughtfulness in a thousand little things you do every day that you don’t even pay attention to.   You matter to people you don’t think remember you, you matter to people who have barely known you, and you’re much more important than you think.  Time and again, over the last month I’ve heard friends regale in tales of small turns of kindness, thoughtfulness or beauty that I KNOW my friends would be surprised to hear, “So and so remembers THAT? “  — but which stuck for years in the envelope of heart and mind.   From home baked meals, arguments to the PTA,  movie nights to heartfelt conversations long forgotten,  everything stays in the memory of the soul.

This is a really good week to remember how kind you can be, how truly wonderful you really are. THAT is what will be remembered and make an impact on the world in  your presence.     At the end of the day (this day and the last) the thing that matters most is the things we do for others in kindness and love.  This expands on the “compassion” card that came up last month.   It doesn’t matter if you made the perfect holiday roast. It doesn’t.  It doesn’t matter if you sold your house, or got that awesome job. It doesn’t matter if you got the best Disney Frozen toy on Black Friday.    None of the children stepped up to the lecturn and said, “My mom got me a Barbie!” –  it was the time spent with them, the kindness, the fearlessness and the personal interest that matter at the end of the day.

During this time of the year it’s easy to lose sight of things that matter as we’re in the home stretch of 2014.  Keep focused on the things (kindness, being here!) that matter most.. not on the ten billion and one things that don’t.    Applaud all the acts of kindness that you perform regularly and for others, and for your caring communication and thoughtfulness.   You matter a LOT to someone…. a lot of someones, in fact.  So keep spreading your kindness and gifts and remember those near and far who have shared those gifts with you too!   (Maybe an angel somewhere is earning their apricot wings!)

 

About this deck:  The Angel Feather Oracle Card Deck by Michelle Newton is a 44 card deck available as a deck or on Android and iPhone.

 

If you or a loved one suffer from depression, or a physical ailment, or overwhelm this holiday season please get help.   Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Christmas Rune week of 23rd Dec 2013

 

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I hope your halls are decked, the aluminum pole (or tree) is up and that  loved ones, family and friends are near your heart or hearth today.      Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa, Blessed Solstice, and Happy Festivus, everyone!

 

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This week’s symbol is not a card but a very special rune from my nearly 30 year old set of hematite rune-stones.  They were the first “oracle” I ever got and I keep them in a brocaded box in a place of honour on my shelf. For many years these smooth, cool stones gave me excellent advice and were the stones I cut my teeth on as a reader.    I always lay them out on this special handkerchief, grandma’s Christmas hanky which is almost 80 years old.   Every holiday season I pull a special stone.  Let this one inspire you as we pass through the joys of the season and into the New Year before us.

Laguz is a rune of “flow” and water energy.   It represents the unconscious, dreams, fantasy and imagination.   It asks that after the last crumbs of fruit-cake are eaten and all the packages put away, that we quiet our conscious mind and the tumble of thoughts going on upstairs and pay attention to those dreams, imaginative yearnings and thoughts quietly flowing behind active attention.   Instead of putting all your attention towards the things (or people) OUTSIDE yourself, allow your inner mind to speak to you. Even if you don’t know how to listen to your intuition or even to your dreams, or if you find yourself oddly blank – at least giving them permission to start whispering in your ear is a place to start.  Believing that YOUR imagination and dreams are important, matters!    We’re not talking “dreams about others”  or fantasies here either. We’re talking about your own rhythms and your own being, your ability to love life.

There is power and wisdom in this part of ourselves, and it’s this part of us that can get things flowing again. It is this intuitive side of us that can connect us to our OWN dreams, to our emotional side, to knowing ourselves. And ultimately, what a wonderful way to go into the new year.    Ralph Blum wrote in his book, ‘The Book of Runes’  (one of my all time favourite lines and probably one of the few I remember from the book):

“ Rune of the self-relating rightly to the Self,
Laguz signifies what alchemists called  conjuctio or sacred
marriage. In fairy tales, it is the end where the hero and heroine live
happily ever after.”

 

HAPPY holidays– and I’m wishing you peace, love, joy and all good things to you and yours.

 

About this deck oracle:      Runes are an ancient indo-European alphabet (known as a runic alphabet) from about AD 150 that were used in Norse and old Germanic languages before the adoption of a Latin alphabet.  Today, the “Elder Futhark” alphabet  is often used as charm symbols for clarity and  insight into oneself.  This set is carved in hematite (mineral iron oxide) and inlaid with gold enamel.  You can make your own set out of wood, stones, paper, clay or other objects.